Updated: Oct 16, 2022
Are you holding on to self blame?
Too often its these feelings of self blame that prevents us truly moving forward, allowing us to embrace confidence in our decision making.
Self blame can often crush self esteem, self love, and trust in your future.
It could be that you are having trouble letting go of hurt that you endured because of someone’s lack of consideration, or betrayal of trust. The saying “You can only get hurt by the ones you love.” Is not necessarily true, as it’s often the ones you confide in that can also use that against you, and these can be friends or colleagues.
Perhaps someone cheated on you, or stole from you and you find it easier to self blame, rather than blame them or accept that some things are planned many years in advance because these events have been mapped out on their Spirit path and there's nothing you could had done to change that.
‘If only l’.. •If l only I stayed home more, he/she wouldn’t had played around. •If only l didn’t trust them, it wouldn’t had been stolen from me.
•If only lwere the one to die, they might still be here instead of me. (Survivors guilt)
Write down all the things that haunt you, things that you are blaming yourself over.
•If only l ......
There are some things in our control and some things that aren't, understanding that other people have a separate path to you, and will encounter and experience different things to you is a good start to eliminate self blame.
Whilst there are mistakes we can make, and can influence upon another's path, the majority of self-blame is not our fault. Every minute of our day is fillled with opportunity. Think of the wealthy and famous people out there, they don't have any more hours in the day than you. We all share 24hrs every day. We can have signs given to us by Spirit about something not being right, the important thing is not to get paranoid when these signs appear as they will cause you to feel suspicious, or anxious. But calmly take in a deep breath and ask 'why am I feeling this?' There willl be triggers, a heightened awareness especially if it is to do with someone being unfaithful. You can do one of two things, ignore it and hope it will go away or pay attention, gather the evidence before you confront them armed with the proof.
Too often, especially when it comes to someone being unfaithful, we are quick to blame them, when in reality we have sent the intention out to the universe to remove them from our lives because they made you feel unsatisfied. So the universe has stepped in to do just that!
The important thing to know is that the universe will deliver what is in your heart, sometimes, what is best for you especially if your guides or Angels feel this person is a train-wreck waiting to happen in your life.
In cases where death may result in someone leaving, know that is not your fault spiritually. Every single persons path is mapped out from the moment they take their first breath right down to the second they draw their last. You've heard the saying 'when your times up, your times up'. Well these are true words, when you are due to die, nothing and no one will stop this from happening, sometimes, sadly people are taken tragically in the most unbelievable ways be it throgh murder or a freak accident. As much as I cringe when I say this, it was on their path and just as two chemicals causing a reaction when they touch each other, there can be people or even vehicles etc that cause a reaction to bring a persons ending around in a terrible way. Once more, if this occurs you should not hold self-blame because once these two forces collide, nothing you or anyone else could had done would had prevented the string of events that followed. Just as you can't stop a nuclear bomb once it's triggered, you can't stop destiny or fate. The only time you can, is when you know as you are doing something that it is not right (cues from Spirit to stop), if you ignore those feelings then you will pay for that choice which cannot be called a mistake, but an intentional decision.
In cases where someone has taken their own life, these are strange situations that once again are never intended for you to carry self-blame, because just as afformentioned 'you can't stop a nuclear bomb once it's triggered' if the desire is there and that is how this persons path has been mapped for timing, you could not had done anything that would had changed the outcome, in some cases there are people who might say 'I found them just in time to do something', these are not by chance, but were a part of the bigger plan on that path anyway because they were at a cross-road on their path where the situation could had gone either way. It's like following a recipe and then adding by accident an extra ingredient or something different only to discover it made the recipe taste even better, again, this was planned spiritually to happen, you were meant to change granma's recipe. And then again you might not had been meant to ever use someone else's recipe but encouraged to create your own.
Nothing happens for nothing, there's always a reason which may remain a mystery or reveal itself in due course. The one thing you need to realise is that just as you may take a certain route in life, there are going to be stop signs along the way, road work that re-routes your plans, and other people who will cause your path to stall. Know that these external circumstances are never meant to be your fault.
In saying this, it doesn't mean never own up to any responsibility for something you intentionally have done, in those instances where you intentionally, knowingly hurt someone resulting in their injury or pain, or intentionally do something that jeopardises your career or relationships, then in these cases you have been the trigger for your Karmic event and are the only instances where you can hold self-blame.
The circumstances where you did not plan it or knew in your heart as you were doing something that it is wrong, these are misfortunes or re-routed paths that changed because it was given the chance to and you chose to step off the path taking another path.
Think of your path as a tree branch with many smaller branches coming off it, better still look at the palm of your hand, this is the blue print for your life's path and it's many smaller paths that lead off the main one like tiny branches are like those moments that can be temptation, a chance to grab a new job offer, a detour from a miserable monotonous life, or simply what you see as a short-cut, believe it or not, there are no short-cuts in life, just re-routing opportunities.
So you see, things are often pre-destined. Just a baby you come into this world for a certain experience, just as there are already lines begining to form on the palm of their palm of their hands, so too are many smaller paths leading off that main one on your life path that might tempt you. See life as a wonderful mystery, don't waste it blaming yourself for things that might had been pre-destined, because whilst you're doing this another golden opportunity might just be passing you by.
𝓢𝓽𝓪𝔂 𝓫𝓵𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓮𝓭🙏🏼 ~𝓚𝓪𝓻𝓮𝓷🌹