How often have we told someone that we are okay when we were actually feeling like crap, like everything in our world is so, so, bloody hard.
The reason we say that we are okay is because we don’t want lectures, we don’t often want advice. But this is our problem, this is everyone’s problem. When we keep things to ourselves and we don’t open up, we become human pressure cookers. Eventually, because we internalise, we don’t release the things that worry us and we can just explode and become depressed or worse.
It doesn’t mean rip a person’s ear off with your problems, but be honest, maybe they may ask if there’s anything they can help you with? Maybe, just maybe it could just be friendly advice.
Often we experience things for a reason, we overcome challenges for a reason, and often that reason is, so we can pass on our experience to the next person.
If we could only learn from one another, there would be less misunderstandings, and more understandings.
So next time you ask someone how they are, and they say okay, ask them again and remind them that you care and if there’s anything they need help with that you have their back. Chances are they might never take you up on that offer, but maybe just by knowing someone cares enough to ask them from their heart how they really are doing, could be all the healing they need to get back on the right track.
Kindness cost nothing.